# You have to keep your mind well fed, so write a list of 20 things that keeps your mind feeling nourished and make sure you’re giving them room in your life.
# Learn to catch yourself every single time you tell yourself that you can’t have, won’t get or aren’t good enough to get what you want.
# Take yourself off auto-pilot – make deliberate decisions on what really matters to you.
# Next time you come up against a risk or a challenge, listen to what you tell yourself and look for a way that that inner dialog can be improved. Ask yourself, “What would make this easier?”
Write a list of the things you’re tolerating and putting up with in your life, then write down how you can remove, minimize or diminish each one.
Listen to your doubts but be ready to make deliberate decisions once you’ve heard them. Sometimes your doubts are there to let you know what you need to prepare for, so you can use them to your benefit as you move forwards.
Do you get annoyed with yourself because you didn’t make the most of something or stepped back form an opportunity? Don’t beat yourself up because that’s just going to make you feel worse. Instead, be brutally honest and ask yourself what you gained from the situation and what you lost out on. Based on this win/lose balance, what’s a different choice you can make next time?
Don’t get swept up in the drama of what’s happening right now, look for more useful ways of engaging with what happens in your life.
# Trust your instincts. They know what they’re talking about.
You need to be around people who make you feel like YOU, so spend more time with the people who support and encourage you and less with those who undermine you.
Fear is a way of letting you know that you’re about to stretch yourself and grow your confidence. That’s a good thing, so use it to take yourself forwards rather than run away.
Forget the pro’s and con’s – do something bold in the face of your challenges and fears.
The body is a mirror for the mind, so shifting your body into a confident state can have surprising results.
# Shy with new people? Not a problem, there’s nothing wrong with being shy and it doesn’t mean you’re not confident. Just don’t overthink it, start beating yourself up or thinking you’re less than because you’re shy – the more you think like that the worse it gets.
# Your environment directly impacts your self-perception, so if you’re surrounded by clutter, paperwork and rubbish put a morning aside to clean up your stuff and get
organized.
The longer you leave that big thing on your to-do list the more it’ll drain you and the bigger it’ll seem – get it done and free yourself up.
# What golden threads, themes, patterns and passions have always been in your life? If those things aren’t present in your life right now, you need to shift your priorities.
Try a new path. The well-trodden paths of your life can easily turn from familiarity to apathy and disconnection. A new path wakes you up.
# Make a plan to do something, then make deliberate choices to follow through. Seeing progress gives you important self-reinforcement.
# When you feel yourself focusing inwards and becoming paralyzed with doubt or fear, switch to focusing outwards at what you can engage and interact with.
*selfmade list from
http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifehack/63-ways-to-build-self-confidence.html
